An aspiration to Love beyond illusions, beyond attachments, and beyond the ego-clinging.

Introduction.

How to Love when one has to be free from illusory delusions, from attachments and clinging?

I do not know, but I think & try as best as i can. I aspire to understand the Enlightened Love, and to practice and prepare to practice the Enlightened, the Unconditional Love.

My current understanding is described in this article, I hope that my understanding will deepen and improve as time passes.


Definitions.

Beings differ from Phenomena in that beings have mind (having mind means that beings are mind and have bodies), while phenomena do not have mind.

Understanding the illusory nature of beings and phenomena means understanding that they/these will keep changing forms. This means that beings and phenomena will arise (be born), change and pass away (die). This process will keep repeating and continuing until one reaches Enlightenment, or so I think.

Time between death and rebirth is called: 'Bardo'.

Word: 'Bardo' literally means: 'between two', but - in buddhism at least - it often means one's state between death and rebirth, in short. (there are many bardo states, including: 'bardo of dying', 'bardo of meditation', 'bardo of dream', and more).

Attachment and clinging can refer to being enslaved/obsessed with someone's/something's current state, current form.

Emptiness of all beings and phenomena meanst that everything is nonpermanent, that everything changes and has 'illusory nature'.


How to be free of ego-attachment?

I think that one should understand the passing nature of one's ego, understand that one changes constantly. One should not cling to one's 'current form'. I think - but i have serious doubts on that still, so check by Yourself please - that one's body is part of the mind, that one's ego affects how one experiences body as existing in the current state, current form.


How to Love without clinging?

I think one should practice the Unconditional Love, the Enlightened Love that 'Has the Taste of Freedom'.

I think one should fight for Love instead of forcing a partner to be together with the 'other half' against his/her will.

I think that one should accept if/when a partner wishes to leave - either for a short while or for longer.

I think one should accept that Loved one will age and die, and accept that current forms will change, including the acceptance that partner's beauty will pass away with age.

One can still strive to be lover or a friend again, either in this or in next lives, I think.

I think that one should see a partner as mature person, as one who is liberated from ego, and should aspire for self-liberation as well.

Mahakala, Liberation, Enlightenment Questions.

... i heard polish song, in which woman warned man that she's his secret godess, that she's his enemy.

... in a way marriage is war, learning from each other, development, defeating weaknesses of both, and others, as well ... i think.

... nice warning, not only for me ... love, ero and sex addict even more, build ego .. mahakala often is too godly and wrathful, egoistic ... should be bodhisattva, protector, not only of a woman.

Radiant Godess, Palden Lhamo similarly. ;)

... a while ago i read that Lama Ole Nydahl fully realized Mahakala Qualities. Is it a trial ,test? is fully wrathful deity as well?

... i heard that Lama Ole Nydahl speaks of himself that he's Liberated, not Enlightened, does this mean that fully he defeated his ego? how ...

''' 'after liberation enlightenment seduces', but for many liberation is enough ... from what or whom? for how long? (hinayana/theravada).

... does after enlightenment fight for liberation continues?

Outer Promises for Self Liberation.

About.

'Buddha gave his students the outer rules to protect them from losing their way. Their goal is to avoid thoughts, words, and actions that stand in the way of a calm mind and to help people let go of attachments.

Buddha gave five promises, which are part of the Eightfold Path, that apply to lay people in today's world:

• Do not kill. Most people at that time were farmers and slaughtered their own animals. Today city dwellers can strengthen that promise,
  
• Do not lie to harm others or wrongly present one's own spiritual attainments,
  
• Do not take what is not given,
  
• Do not bring sexual harm to anyone,
  
• Do not get intoxicated.
  

-- Quoted from 'The Way Things Are' book by Lama Ole Nydahl.

Liberation & Enlightenment.

Liberation.

'Release from the cycle of existence (Skt. Samsara);

The state of mind in which all suffering and the causes of suffering are completely overcome.

It happens through dissolving the false idea of a presumed "I."

On this level, all disturbing emotions fall away.

When the last stiff concepts are let go as well, then one becomes enlightened.'

-- Quoted from 'Buddha & Love' book by Lama Ole Nydahl.


Theravada.

'Southern Buddhism, also called the Basic Way, the Words of the Eldest of the Order, Theravada, or the Foundational Vehicle, is mainly taught in Sri Lanka, Thailand, Burma, Laos, Cambodia, and most of Indochina, excluding Vietnam.

The Goal of this path is liberation - the dissolution of one's habitual identification with the illusion of a self.

If one truly realizes that any imagined "I" is without any lasting properties, and therefore only exists as an incorrect concept, then this sets one free.

Because one is neither the body, which will eventually die, nor the passing thoughts and feelings, there is no "one" or "me" who can suffer.

On this path the emphasis is on one's own happiness and security - one's own liberation.'

-- Quoted from 'Buddha & Love' book by Lama Ole Nydahl.


Enlightenment.

'The full development of mind, the state of a Buddha.'

-- Quoted from 'Buddha & Love' book by Lama Ole Nydahl.

Liberation & Abolishing Thrones.

i had insights, i read about this as well.

Buddhism is not a Slavery, it Leads to Liberation & Enlightenment, even if on the Way one often Serves & Learns.

It's said that any of debts - including the Karmic Debts for Lessons - take away the Freedoms.

Acts of Compassion do help - to pay the debts however - even more when done Wisely at that.

i think it's a Noble Way to Share & Give, to pay the Karmic Debts on time, without delaying too much.

It's said that every work ennobles.

Nothing is permanent, no heaven, no rule.

Had insights that every Buddhist Student learns how to abolish the Thrones, how to abolish even the Gods, as we help we gain the Wisdom, Advantages, Power & Strength.

It's also a part of the Way to use that Wisdom & Power, for the benefit of all.

i think it's only sane that way, otherwise it would be Tyranny & Sect, it would be building one's happiness & success on the other beings' unhappiness & work.

i think it's also my Way, to reach Liberation & Enlightenment as well.


OM MANI PEME HUNG
KARMAPA CHENNO

Namaste, as well.