Two Kinds of Love.
'Conditioned Love expects, hopes, fears, and wants to 'get' rather than give. Thus disturbing emotions arise and one gets increasingly poorer on the inner level.
Giving/unconditional love realizes how much beings struggle with their inner and outer worlds - that they do, say, and think things which make them unable to find lasting happiness. Consequentially, one beings to give, without thinking of one's own advantage.'
-- Quoted from 'Buddha & Love' book by Lama Ole Nydahl.
Agape & Eros.
'Eros is a needs-based and desire-based, egocentric and acquisitive love: in other words, we can love other humans and God with a love of eros in which we love them out of self-interest in order to acquire and possess them. It is drawn from Greek Platonic thought.
Agape, by contrast, is spontaneous, unconditional, theocentric, self-giving, self-sacrificial: in other words, we can love others and God with a love of agape in which we reject all self-gain and interest and surrender ourselves to other and love them purely for themselves.'
See also, if You wish: Love, Enlightened.
The Four Immeasureables.
Four Immeasureables, the (Skt. A pramana / Tib. Tse me shi): often expressed by four wishes:
1. May all beings have happines and causes of happiness (Love),
2. May they be free from suffering and the cause of suffering (Compassion),
3. May they always experience true happiness, which is totally free from suffering (Sympathetic joy),
4. May they remain in the great equanimity, which is beyond attachment and aversion (Equanimity).
Blog author's comments.
Should Buddhists love God?
In Buddhism, True Compassion should encompass every being - including one's own happiness.
Without loving oneself, one's Compassion is not complete.
In Buddhism, gods - as well as denizens of hells - are beings too, even when Buddhas are considered greater than them.
Every being should be addressed with the Four Immeasurables approach, as well.
True Compassion can be developed using Loving Eyes practice, by repeating
OM MANI PEME HUNG mantras - then it develops in Mind, Speech & Body activities as a consequence.
This blog's author prefers Unconditional Love over Conditioned Love, Agape over Eros, Love over Sex. i like sex, but it has 'lower priority' than love.
This blog's author thinks that True Love should make people grow spiritually, that Enlightened Love is a way leading for Enlightenment.
This blog's author thinks that Couples should help others as well, being beneficial & strengthening their Love that way.